Safe dialogue process

Pre-dialogue interview

  • Each participant will attend a pre-dialogue meeting led by facilitators with his or her support person- done meeting for the survivor and one for the offender.

Pre-dialogue interviews typically:

  • Last 30 minutes
  • Describe the dialogue process to the participants
  • Provide basic info about the offender to the survivor and vice-versa
  • Preview the participants story and questions with the facilitators
  • Determine boundaries for the conversation
  • Define personal goals of the dialogue
  • Defined desired outcomes of the dialogue

If, after the pre-dialogue interview, either participant wishes to back out of the program they may do so.

At no time during the process are they obligated to continue their participation.

The dialogue

  • Each participant will engage in ONE dialogue with an unrelated survivor or offender.
  • Each dialogue will include six people
  • One survivor (unrelated to offender)
  • One offender (unrelated to survivor)
  • One personal advocate- such as a counselor- per participant
  • Two D.V.S.D trained facilitators- usually one male and one female
  • Date and time of the dialogue are mutually agreed upon
  • The location of the dialogue is determined by the survivor
  • Session length is determined by participants
  • Each participant tells his or her story
  • Each participant gets the chance to ask questions after the stories.

Post-dialogue interview

  • Immediately¬† following the dialogue, the male and female facilitators separately interview the survivor and the offender to learn their initial reactions to their experiences.
  • The survivor always goes first. While the offender is on the post-dialogue interview, the survivor leaves the site, ensuring there is no further contact between them.
  • Participants may request security escorts to their vehicles following the session, if desired.
  • Follow-up counselling sessions for each participant are required.

Values that D.V.S.D embraces

  • Ending Domestic Violence
  • Making resources available to all
  • Communities
  • Safety
  • Accountability
  • Support
  • Healing
  • Respect
  • Growth
  • Empowerment
  • Hope empathy
  • Efficiency
  • Accuracy

Domestic Violence Safety Dialogue is NOT....

  • Reconciliation
  • A way to get couples together
  • A dating service
  • Couples counselling